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By Casey Grey
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In order to have more you need to be able to receive more.
In order to receive more you need to be able to give more. In order to give more you need to be able to have more. It's a continuous spiral and it's up to you to make sure that spiral is going upwards and expanding outwards. I hope you had an amazing Christmas, received everything you wanted and gave everything you could. (This guy sure did...) When you are committed to something, you get it done no matter what. You give it the time it deserves, no matter what.
Commitment is a scary word for most people. Perhaps it signifies lack of freedom. For me, it's power. It forces me to focus on what I know is most important. It's freedom for the mind. "If you keep doing what you have always been doing, you will continue to get what you have always gotten."
A lot of people have been quoted as saying this (or a version of this) such as Henry Ford and Albert Einstein. I've been thinking about this a lot recently. Although I believe in this wisdom, there is also importance in having patience. Giving things the time they deserve. People pivot too quickly these days. That being said, we all have habits that are not serving us. Habits that continue to give us the results we have always gotten that we are not satisfied with. If you continue to have health problems but continue to eat junk food, don't expect something different. If you continue to have problems with your relationships but don't work on yourself, don't expect your relationships to improve. If you continue to have money problems but don't track your money, don't expect your finances to get better. Remember though, improvements are sometimes small and hard to see. Perhaps all of those things above ARE getting better but they just aren't where you want them to be. In that case, you may need to continue what you are already doing. Be patient and persistent. Today, I'm trying something new. Energy Healing with Jasmine at Younion. But it's only part of the improvements I have been implementing into my life. I'm looking forward to seeing all the good that comes from this. This holiday try something new that will serve you and those around you. Is your life comfortable? Is it okay? Perhaps it's not bad but it's not great either... What about your job or your business? Is it comfortable or are you being pushed beyond your perceived limits? Does your partner encourage you to reach further? What about your friends? Do they challenge you? Are you doing something that makes you uncomfortable every day? Over the holidays, it's nice to be comfortable. To relax and enjoy what you have. But the rest of the time, comfort will only slow you down. "Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone." Being the owner of a business, I have noticed that people often tell me what they think I want to hear as opposed to what I need to hear. I sometimes don't know there's a problem until it's too late and then I'm brought in for damage control.
I'm fine with problems. Problems are inevitable. What I'm not fine with is when problems are brought to me without any effort put forward into solving them. Here's a simple tip on how to present a problem: "Hi Mr. Boss, here's the problem we have and here is what I propose we do. What do you think?" Heck, that's what I do with my clients! They are my boss. "Hello Mrs. Client. We have come across problem X but we have already implemented Y and we should be back on track by tomorrow." Nobody can get mad at somebody who has already solved a problem they did not know existed. Being a parent is one of the most challenging and most rewarding things in life. As a parent, if you are conscious of your kids actions, you will realize that your kids simply mirror back their environments. If you are a big part of their environments (which I'm assuming you are) you will see that they have the same habits as you (good and bad).
Seeing how Christmas is less than 10 days away and the magic is in the air, I figured it was time for another post similar to How To Keep Your Wife Unhappy and How To Feel Terrible All The Time. Here's some tips on how to squash your kid's dreams:
Come to think about it... Are we doing these things to ourselves subconsciously? When things are simple, the mind says "that can't be right." It has trouble trusting things that are simple. It wants an explanation.
A tree, for example, needs good soil, water and sun to grow. Simple on the surface but complex when you dig into how it does this. Do I need to know the complex workings of a tree to understand and trust the process? No, but the mind wants it. When I think of my life, simplicity comes from my intuition. Deep down I always know what I need to do and what is right for me in that moment. But then my mind gets in the way and tries to rationalize everything and turns it into a complex mess that takes me off track. My heart and gut have never steered me in the wrong direction. My mind on the other hand... Well... Let's say I'm still working on fixing those complex workings. Where are you adding complexity to your life that, if you listened to your soul, would be simple? We all have a vision for our lives. There are things we want to buy, places we want to visit, relationships we want to create, experiences we want to have and a person we want to become.
But most of us keep this vision bottled up. We keep it to ourselves because we think people will think it's dumb and impossible to achieve or, even worse, we think it's dumb and impossible. But look around. People all around us are making their dreams happen. There are amazing people doing phenomenal things from all walks of life. So it's definitely possible... Below is my vision for my life. I'm putting it out there. I'm surrendering to the universe and will act on what the universe puts in front of me to make this happen. I will no longer slow it down.
This WILL happen. Do I know how or when? No. But it does not matter. It's already in the works. The universe is lining everything up perfectly and all I need to do is say YES! What's your vision? When are you going to be courageous enough to share it? The universe is waiting for you. I had a great call with two amazing men yesterday, Ken Eslick Jr. and Alan Murray. These two guys are out to serve! They always deliver on what they say and are happy to support in any way they can.
The conversation yesterday went to relationships. We all shared experiences and wisdom as to what we've learned and what we continue to learn within our relationships with our wives. One of the reasons this was such a powerful conversation was because not only have we all been with our women for an extended period of time but we also work with them. Having a relationship is easy but having a GREAT relationship takes a lot of work. Throwing business into the mix only adds complexity. I shared some stuff that has been working for myself such as understanding the importance that hormones play in a relationship. Understanding what produces testosterone and what produces estrogen has really helped me. This is something I learned from Beyond Mars and Venus. Men need 10 times more testosterone than women and women need 10 times more estrogen than men. As an example, listening produces testosterone and talking produces estrogen (God knew what he was doing when he created us). Other testosterone building activities are driving, making money, sports and solving problems. Does that sound like a man to you? Alan shared a rule that has worked really well for him and his wife. No business talk after 8:00pm. Simple yet powerful for couples who work together. It's easy to talk about work and all the things you "have" to do tomorrow or things that came up during the day. But when do you check in with each other? Men, when do you ask your wives questions and just listen to what she needs to say? (Without trying to fix anything I should add...) Ken had something great that has stuck with him over the years:
This can be a vicious cycle. If a woman feels unsafe, unheard or unseed, there's a good chance they will be critical, controlling and/or closed towards their man. And if a man feels like their woman is being critical, controlling or closed off to him, he will likely not see her, hear her or make her feel very safe. The things above are simple but they're not easy. Great relationships require more work on ourselves than anything else. Yes, they can be painful but they can also be the greatest joy in the world. What's the point of doing anything if you can't share it with somebody? (And I could not imagine sharing my life with anybody other than Natasha Grey.) Thank you, Ken and Alan, for your wisdom. It's already being put into practice! Unless I have an early morning meeting, I always put time aside to read. I start the day off by putting some positive thoughts into my mind. I usually have a few books on the go and open up whichever one I feel most pulled to.
This morning I picked up The Success Principles by Jack Canfield. One of the things I love about Jack's writing is how he works humour into it. If you have not read the book, success principle number one is take 100% responsibility for your life. The comic strip below is a great example of what NOT to do but something we all come across (or potentially still do). If you complain or make excuses for ANYTHING, you are not following this principle. "I'm too busy" is something I often say. This is an excuse. It's a choice I have made. It's something I need to eliminate from my vocabulary. This truth is, if I'm too busy for something then it's not important enough to me or there is something more important in that moment. Choose your responses wisely. They will lead to actions and ultimately to your results. |
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