By Casey Grey
Some things are easy to measure and track.
If you have decided to begin playing the piano, it's easy to see your progress. If you play baseball, it's easy to follow your stats and see the areas that are changing. If you lift weights, it's easy to track if you are getting stronger. If you invest your money, you can see it go up and down.
But what about things like your emotional strength? Or your parenting skills? Or your character? Or your leadership skills? Or your relationship with your spouse.
Often, the things that are most important are the hardest to track and since we can't track them we don't give them the attention they need.
Tracking is important, especially in business, but it's not everything.
Yesterday I had the privilege of attending an event held by Steve Lowell with guest speaker Sunil Tulsiani. These two guys are phenomenal. They are out to serve and they absolutely deliver.
Most of my morning so far has been spent reviewing my notes and taking action on the things I noted from the event. It is amazing what one day of powerful and positive energy can do!
There are so many great things I could share but there is one thing that stuck with me the most. It is how we talk about money to others and to ourselves. Specifically what we say about its importance.
If we say money is not important, what are we telling our subconscious mind about money?
Imagine telling your wife that she's not important but you want her anyways... How would that work out? I suspect you would not have a wife...
So what happens if you say money is not important but you want it anyways?
Money is energy. Money is proof that you are delivering value to people. Money alone is not bad or good, it's a resource to help you. You get to choose what you want to do with it.
Money does not have to be everything but it is important.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary.”
What you do is more important than what you say.
People are watching your feet, not your mouth.
However you want to put it, your actions will always speak louder than your words. It's a principle that strands true. It cannot change.
We've all been tricked by the slick fast talker (I'll admit that I have). Deep down we always knew we were being tricked but we let our head make the decision.
Although the words you use are important, what comes before and after those words will always be more important. The truth will always prevail.
How do you see the world?
Do you believe people are nice and that the world is a good place or do you see destruction and all the evil in the world?
Do you believe kids are the greatest joy in the world or a nuisance because they make too much noise and wreck your front lawn?
Do you see opportunities all around the world or problems that are too big to solve?
Do you travel through the world struggling at every turn or having fun like it's a game?
We don't see the world as it is. We see the world how we are.
If you want to change the world, change yourself.
How do you define success?
All of the above?
Is success something you get or something you feel?
If other people believe your are successful, does that make you successful?
The ONLY way you will ever FEEL successful is if you are fulfilled and the only way to be fulfilled is to do what you want to do.
Happy Monday! I hope you're doing what you love. If you're not, I hope you're putting a plan into place to make it happen. If you're not, that's on you...
I should eat healthier.
I should go to the gym more.
I should watch less TV.
I should work less.
I should spend more time with my kids.
I should. I should. I should.
Stop guilt-tripping yourself! Stop "shoulding" all over yourself! It's not helping you.
Is it motivating you to change?
I would venture to say that it's not. I bet it's only making you feel like shit.
How about you compliment yourself instead? Acknowledge yourself for all the great you did.
It's a lot easier to build on a solid foundation than one that has been broken down over the years.
And if the foundation is broken down, it will take some time to repair it. The sooner you start, the better.
Would you talk to your child the way you talk to yourself in your mind? Deep down, we're all just kids looking to be acknowledged.
P.S. If you have young kids, you are building their foundation right now.
I always do that.
I never do that.
Everyone is doing it.
No one is buying it.
It happens every time.
Everything is going wrong.
Always, never, everyone, no one, every time and everything are rarely correct (notice I did not say never correct). They are all-or-nothing words.
The words we use are powerful. Both for the people who hear them as well as our subconscious minds.
Is it true that you always screw up?
Is it true that you never make a mistake?
Is it true that everyone is on social media?
Is it true that no one is buying your product or service?
Is it true that your kids push back every time you ask them to do their chores?
Is it true that everything is going wrong?
Be careful what you say to others and what you tell yourself. If you say the lie enough, you may just end up believing it.
Do you think you're stupid or do you think you're a genius?
Do you think you're weak or do you think you're strong?
Do you think you're a terrible parent or do you think you're the greatest parent of all time?
Do you think you're a terrible spouse or do you think you're a terrific spouse.
Do you think you're sick or do you think you're healthy.
Do you think you're a follower or do you think you're a leader?
Do you think you're disconnected or do you think you're connected?
Do you think you're tired or do you think you're full of energy?
It's true, you are what you think...
But only if you believe it.
It’s important to understand.
Only when we understand a person are we truly able to serve them.
Only when we understand some “thing” are we truly able to use it to it’s fullest capability.
It you want to serve somebody, you need to understand them.
If you want to use some “thing” to its fullest capability, you need to understand it.
But in order to understand, you need to stop judging.
When you judge something or someone, you are no longer seeking to understand. Your mind will be seeking to prove it’s judgement.
That goes for understanding yourself as well. Stop judging yourself and start understanding yourself instead. Then you will create amazing change.
When I was a kid, my step dad ran his business from our home. I remember coming home from school and regularly having to sit patiently at his desk while he finished a phone call before I could ask him whatever I needed to ask him. It was likely 2 minutes but it seemed like an eternity at that age.
Now it feels as though days, weeks and months fly by. Knowing that reminds me to continue to exercise that skill I was learning as a kid.
Easier said than done (just like when I was a kid).
I want the nice house, fancy car and regular trips down south now. I want this blog and podcast to help millions of people today. I want The Conscious Builder Show to have millions of subscribers now. I want Younion to have thousands of members benefiting from all the amazing classes and programs now.
But we're not there yet.
And that's okay.
Everything is happening exactly as it's supposed to. The universe is working for me. The universe will give me what I'm ready for.
It's my job to make sure I'm prepared.
And so the journey (and my training) continues...
P.S. Last night we celebrated the journey so far with The Conscious Builder team. Here are some facts/stats from 2019 that I shared with the team to show we ARE making an impact: