By Casey Grey
The law of attraction states that everything that we are experiencing, have experienced or will experience has been attracted to our lives by our own doing.
Personally, I believe in this. And if you're reading this, I'm guessing that you believe it or some part of you believes it to be true.
Like most things in life though, it's easy to take credit for the positive stuff. When you get that promotion, land a new client or finally get that date with the person of your dreams, you can say "I did this!"
But what about the negative stuff. Are you taking credit for that? Or are you blaming external factors?
Thanks to Grant Cardone's The 10X Rule, I have come to realize, yet again, the power of words.
I often say that things are happening FOR me but he has flipped that around to things are happening BECAUSE OF me.
That simple change of words creates a radical shift in mindset. All of a sudden I am taking radical responsibility for everything that happens in my life. Yes, I know most things in life are out of my control but that does not mean I have to relinquish responsibility.
We are responsible for our own lives. If shit's not working out or you're not happy with your current situation, that's on you and nobody else.
It's just not possible.
Is there a hack for a better relationship?
Is there a hack to create a better brand?
Is there a hack to become a better parent?
Is there a hack to become a better leader?
Is there a hack to improve your character?
You cannot hack what's most important in our world. At least not for the long term.
Sure, you could pick up some tips that improve your relationship but if you don't do them consistently they won't last.
You could also pick up some tips to get your brand out to more people but that's marketing, not branding. A brand is built over time.
Tips for parenting are all over the place but kids are smarter than we give them credit for. You can't hack your way to being a better parent. You need to show up every single day and be present.
SImilarly, you can't hack your way into being a better leader. You need to step up consistently. You need to prove your leadership skills to people over time.
And your character, that's you. If you are always looking to hack everything, what does that tell people about who you are?
Hacking skills is one thing. Hacking principles does not work. And principles are what are most important in life.
Ideas are not the problem. There is no shortage of ideas. I have dozens of ideas every single day and I'm sure you do as well.
The question is, which idea do I need to act on?
Yesterday, I spent the day with 30 amazing, energized, connected and crazy people (crazy is good by the way). These are the types of people where you could share your wildest dreams and instead of them saying "you won't be able to accomplish that," they say, "That's amazing! I know you'll be able to accomplish that AND more. Plus I'll even help you get there!"
The ideas were flowing and lots of questions were being pondered. It wasn't until after the event when I sat down with a potential client that I realized what I must act on. All the ideas and conversations and questions eventually led to this one moment and it clicked.
And it all came from surrounding myself with these crazy people. Stay tuned for exciting things ahead!
Thank you, Sunil, for throwing another amazing event.
Some things are easy to measure and track.
If you have decided to begin playing the piano, it's easy to see your progress. If you play baseball, it's easy to follow your stats and see the areas that are changing. If you lift weights, it's easy to track if you are getting stronger. If you invest your money, you can see it go up and down.
But what about things like your emotional strength? Or your parenting skills? Or your character? Or your leadership skills? Or your relationship with your spouse.
Often, the things that are most important are the hardest to track and since we can't track them we don't give them the attention they need.
Tracking is important, especially in business, but it's not everything.
Yesterday I had the privilege of attending an event held by Steve Lowell with guest speaker Sunil Tulsiani. These two guys are phenomenal. They are out to serve and they absolutely deliver.
Most of my morning so far has been spent reviewing my notes and taking action on the things I noted from the event. It is amazing what one day of powerful and positive energy can do!
There are so many great things I could share but there is one thing that stuck with me the most. It is how we talk about money to others and to ourselves. Specifically what we say about its importance.
If we say money is not important, what are we telling our subconscious mind about money?
Imagine telling your wife that she's not important but you want her anyways... How would that work out? I suspect you would not have a wife...
So what happens if you say money is not important but you want it anyways?
Money is energy. Money is proof that you are delivering value to people. Money alone is not bad or good, it's a resource to help you. You get to choose what you want to do with it.
Money does not have to be everything but it is important.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “What you are stands over you the while, and thunders so that I cannot hear what you say to the contrary.”
What you do is more important than what you say.
People are watching your feet, not your mouth.
However you want to put it, your actions will always speak louder than your words. It's a principle that strands true. It cannot change.
We've all been tricked by the slick fast talker (I'll admit that I have). Deep down we always knew we were being tricked but we let our head make the decision.
Although the words you use are important, what comes before and after those words will always be more important. The truth will always prevail.
How do you see the world?
Do you believe people are nice and that the world is a good place or do you see destruction and all the evil in the world?
Do you believe kids are the greatest joy in the world or a nuisance because they make too much noise and wreck your front lawn?
Do you see opportunities all around the world or problems that are too big to solve?
Do you travel through the world struggling at every turn or having fun like it's a game?
We don't see the world as it is. We see the world how we are.
If you want to change the world, change yourself.
How do you define success?
All of the above?
Is success something you get or something you feel?
If other people believe your are successful, does that make you successful?
The ONLY way you will ever FEEL successful is if you are fulfilled and the only way to be fulfilled is to do what you want to do.
Happy Monday! I hope you're doing what you love. If you're not, I hope you're putting a plan into place to make it happen. If you're not, that's on you...
I should eat healthier.
I should go to the gym more.
I should watch less TV.
I should work less.
I should spend more time with my kids.
I should. I should. I should.
Stop guilt-tripping yourself! Stop "shoulding" all over yourself! It's not helping you.
Is it motivating you to change?
I would venture to say that it's not. I bet it's only making you feel like shit.
How about you compliment yourself instead? Acknowledge yourself for all the great you did.
It's a lot easier to build on a solid foundation than one that has been broken down over the years.
And if the foundation is broken down, it will take some time to repair it. The sooner you start, the better.
Would you talk to your child the way you talk to yourself in your mind? Deep down, we're all just kids looking to be acknowledged.
P.S. If you have young kids, you are building their foundation right now.
I always do that.
I never do that.
Everyone is doing it.
No one is buying it.
It happens every time.
Everything is going wrong.
Always, never, everyone, no one, every time and everything are rarely correct (notice I did not say never correct). They are all-or-nothing words.
The words we use are powerful. Both for the people who hear them as well as our subconscious minds.
Is it true that you always screw up?
Is it true that you never make a mistake?
Is it true that everyone is on social media?
Is it true that no one is buying your product or service?
Is it true that your kids push back every time you ask them to do their chores?
Is it true that everything is going wrong?
Be careful what you say to others and what you tell yourself. If you say the lie enough, you may just end up believing it.