By Casey Grey
That's On You
The law of attraction states that everything that we are experiencing, have experienced or will experience has been attracted to our lives by our own doing.
Personally, I believe in this. And if you're reading this, I'm guessing that you believe it or some part of you believes it to be true.
Like most things in life though, it's easy to take credit for the positive stuff. When you get that promotion, land a new client or finally get that date with the person of your dreams, you can say "I did this!"
But what about the negative stuff. Are you taking credit for that? Or are you blaming external factors?
Thanks to Grant Cardone's The 10X Rule, I have come to realize, yet again, the power of words.
I often say that things are happening FOR me but he has flipped that around to things are happening BECAUSE OF me.
That simple change of words creates a radical shift in mindset. All of a sudden I am taking radical responsibility for everything that happens in my life. Yes, I know most things in life are out of my control but that does not mean I have to relinquish responsibility.
We are responsible for our own lives. If shit's not working out or you're not happy with your current situation, that's on you and nobody else.
All The Time In The World
"There's not enough time in a day."
Could it be possible that your perception of time is flawed?
We all have 24 hours in a day.
What if you changed that thought to "I have all the time in the world."
Because it's true.
Hacking What Matters
It's just not possible.
Is there a hack for a better relationship?
Is there a hack to create a better brand?
Is there a hack to become a better parent?
Is there a hack to become a better leader?
Is there a hack to improve your character?
You cannot hack what's most important in our world. At least not for the long term.
Sure, you could pick up some tips that improve your relationship but if you don't do them consistently they won't last.
You could also pick up some tips to get your brand out to more people but that's marketing, not branding. A brand is built over time.
Tips for parenting are all over the place but kids are smarter than we give them credit for. You can't hack your way to being a better parent. You need to show up every single day and be present.
SImilarly, you can't hack your way into being a better leader. You need to step up consistently. You need to prove your leadership skills to people over time.
And your character, that's you. If you are always looking to hack everything, what does that tell people about who you are?
Hacking skills is one thing. Hacking principles does not work. And principles are what are most important in life.
Tracking What's Important
Some things are easy to measure and track.
If you have decided to begin playing the piano, it's easy to see your progress. If you play baseball, it's easy to follow your stats and see the areas that are changing. If you lift weights, it's easy to track if you are getting stronger. If you invest your money, you can see it go up and down.
But what about things like your emotional strength? Or your parenting skills? Or your character? Or your leadership skills? Or your relationship with your spouse.
Often, the things that are most important are the hardest to track and since we can't track them we don't give them the attention they need.
Tracking is important, especially in business, but it's not everything.
How To Change The World
How do you see the world?
Do you believe people are nice and that the world is a good place or do you see destruction and all the evil in the world?
Do you believe kids are the greatest joy in the world or a nuisance because they make too much noise and wreck your front lawn?
Do you see opportunities all around the world or problems that are too big to solve?
Do you travel through the world struggling at every turn or having fun like it's a game?
We don't see the world as it is. We see the world how we are.
If you want to change the world, change yourself.
The ONLY Way To Be Successful
How do you define success?
All of the above?
Is success something you get or something you feel?
If other people believe your are successful, does that make you successful?
The ONLY way you will ever FEEL successful is if you are fulfilled and the only way to be fulfilled is to do what you want to do.
Happy Monday! I hope you're doing what you love. If you're not, I hope you're putting a plan into place to make it happen. If you're not, that's on you...
Same Thing, Different Order
Did the dog bite Johnny or did Johnny bite the dog?
Did you drill the screw or screw the drill?
Are you a body with a spirit or a spirit with a body?
Same words in a different order gives you a different outcome.
Sometimes you don't need to change what you are doing. You just need to change the order in which you do it.
What Do You Think?
Do you think you're stupid or do you think you're a genius?
Do you think you're weak or do you think you're strong?
Do you think you're a terrible parent or do you think you're the greatest parent of all time?
Do you think you're a terrible spouse or do you think you're a terrific spouse.
Do you think you're sick or do you think you're healthy.
Do you think you're a follower or do you think you're a leader?
Do you think you're disconnected or do you think you're connected?
Do you think you're tired or do you think you're full of energy?
It's true, you are what you think...
But only if you believe it.
Stop Judging To Start Understanding
It’s important to understand.
Only when we understand a person are we truly able to serve them.
Only when we understand some “thing” are we truly able to use it to it’s fullest capability.
It you want to serve somebody, you need to understand them.
If you want to use some “thing” to its fullest capability, you need to understand it.
But in order to understand, you need to stop judging.
When you judge something or someone, you are no longer seeking to understand. Your mind will be seeking to prove it’s judgement.
That goes for understanding yourself as well. Stop judging yourself and start understanding yourself instead. Then you will create amazing change.
When I was a kid, my step dad ran his business from our home. I remember coming home from school and regularly having to sit patiently at his desk while he finished a phone call before I could ask him whatever I needed to ask him. It was likely 2 minutes but it seemed like an eternity at that age.
Now it feels as though days, weeks and months fly by. Knowing that reminds me to continue to exercise that skill I was learning as a kid.
Easier said than done (just like when I was a kid).
I want the nice house, fancy car and regular trips down south now. I want this blog and podcast to help millions of people today. I want The Conscious Builder Show to have millions of subscribers now. I want Younion to have thousands of members benefiting from all the amazing classes and programs now.
But we're not there yet.
And that's okay.
Everything is happening exactly as it's supposed to. The universe is working for me. The universe will give me what I'm ready for.
It's my job to make sure I'm prepared.
And so the journey (and my training) continues...
P.S. Last night we celebrated the journey so far with The Conscious Builder team. Here are some facts/stats from 2019 that I shared with the team to show we ARE making an impact: