By Casey Grey
The law of attraction states that everything that we are experiencing, have experienced or will experience has been attracted to our lives by our own doing.
Personally, I believe in this. And if you're reading this, I'm guessing that you believe it or some part of you believes it to be true.
Like most things in life though, it's easy to take credit for the positive stuff. When you get that promotion, land a new client or finally get that date with the person of your dreams, you can say "I did this!"
But what about the negative stuff. Are you taking credit for that? Or are you blaming external factors?
Thanks to Grant Cardone's The 10X Rule, I have come to realize, yet again, the power of words.
I often say that things are happening FOR me but he has flipped that around to things are happening BECAUSE OF me.
That simple change of words creates a radical shift in mindset. All of a sudden I am taking radical responsibility for everything that happens in my life. Yes, I know most things in life are out of my control but that does not mean I have to relinquish responsibility.
We are responsible for our own lives. If shit's not working out or you're not happy with your current situation, that's on you and nobody else.
How do you see the world?
Do you believe people are nice and that the world is a good place or do you see destruction and all the evil in the world?
Do you believe kids are the greatest joy in the world or a nuisance because they make too much noise and wreck your front lawn?
Do you see opportunities all around the world or problems that are too big to solve?
Do you travel through the world struggling at every turn or having fun like it's a game?
We don't see the world as it is. We see the world how we are.
If you want to change the world, change yourself.
As a parent, I believe it's important for my son to learn how to lose.
Losing is not bad thing. A loss is not a failure.
A loss is an opportunity to learn.
In my experience of life, every loss I have had has taught me something. Whether it's a lesson about some "thing" or a lesson about who I am, a loss always makes me better.
My wins, on the other hand, do not always teach me something. Not because there's not a lesson, but because I feel as though I did everything right. What more is there to learn? This can be deceiving. That is why the losses are so important.
In sports, you could win because of a bad call. If you don't realize that, what could you be missing? Life is the same.
Perhaps what you thought was working, is no longer working. Or perhaps you got lazy. Or perhaps the game has changed.
The loss will help you realign.
If you are concerned about your kid "losing", don't be surprised if your kid becomes afraid of losing when he's older (and in turn, afraid to take the risks that are required for a fulfilled life).
I should eat healthier.
I should go to the gym more.
I should watch less TV.
I should work less.
I should spend more time with my kids.
I should. I should. I should.
Stop guilt-tripping yourself! Stop "shoulding" all over yourself! It's not helping you.
Is it motivating you to change?
I would venture to say that it's not. I bet it's only making you feel like shit.
How about you compliment yourself instead? Acknowledge yourself for all the great you did.
It's a lot easier to build on a solid foundation than one that has been broken down over the years.
And if the foundation is broken down, it will take some time to repair it. The sooner you start, the better.
Would you talk to your child the way you talk to yourself in your mind? Deep down, we're all just kids looking to be acknowledged.
P.S. If you have young kids, you are building their foundation right now.
Do you think you're stupid or do you think you're a genius?
Do you think you're weak or do you think you're strong?
Do you think you're a terrible parent or do you think you're the greatest parent of all time?
Do you think you're a terrible spouse or do you think you're a terrific spouse.
Do you think you're sick or do you think you're healthy.
Do you think you're a follower or do you think you're a leader?
Do you think you're disconnected or do you think you're connected?
Do you think you're tired or do you think you're full of energy?
It's true, you are what you think...
But only if you believe it.
On January 8 of 2019 I committed to a Daily Blog and I kept that commitment. 365 days of a posting a blog every single day!
Not only have I kept it but I will continue to write every day. I will commit to another year and I suspect it will continue on after that.
But that’s not my commitment for 2020...
Today, January 8, 2020, I am committing to something new...
I’m committing to a daily podcast.
I will make sure that everyday you will hear my voice (if you choose to subscribe to Lean In with Casey Grey).
Just like when I committed to writing daily, I am doing this because I want to be better than I was yesterday (or in this case, last year). I want to become a better speaker and storyteller so that I can help people find that inspiration inside of them and release it!
I said it last year and I’ll say it again. New Year's Resolutions are useless unless you are committed.
What are you going to commit to today?
Supply and demand is easily understood. If you want to increase the supply, you need to increase the demand. When the demand increases, the supply will naturally increase. It has to.
Why not apply this to our lives?
If you want to increase the supply of love, wealth, energy, health, vitality, enjoyment, fulfillment or anything else, you simply need to increase the demand.
Where you place that demand is of great importance though. You must demand it from the source.
That source is you.
You are the only source who can supply whatever it is you want more of. Take responsibility, raise your standards and go after your dreams.
(That's how I ended up with these two.)
Birds who are raised in captivity don't know any better. The cage they are raised in ends up being their home, their safe place. If you left the door open to their cage, they would likely not leave and if they do leave they will likely come back.
Unfortunately most of us are also raised in cages but the cage is not a physical cage. It's built in our minds through the environments, experiences and people we have been exposed to.
We don't ask questions because we're afraid of looking dumb. We don't go after our dreams because we're afraid we might fail. We don't ask that special person out on a date because we're afraid of rejection. We focus on the negative and ignore the positive. We do things that are comfortable and we stay in our cage (and then we complain about it).
Little do we know, the door to the cage is open. There's a whole world out there just waiting for us. All we need to do is take the leap and fly.
Will it be easy? No.
Will it be scary? Yes.
Will we get hurt? Definitely.
But will it be freeing? Hell yes!
You get to choose. Do you want to be safe or do you want to be free?
I know I need to eat healthier.
I know I need to exercise more.
I know I need to spend more time with my spouse and kids.
I know I work too much.
I know I need to sleep more.
I know I need to read more.
I know I need to meditate more.
I know I need to quit my job.
I know I need to start this new business.
I know, I know, I know...
Knowing is not enough. You need to take action.
What are you actually going to DO this year? Make 2020 a year of action.
Brian and I are starting the year off with a bunch of recording today. Watch out 2020! Here we come!
When you are committed to something, you get it done no matter what. You give it the time it deserves, no matter what.
Commitment is a scary word for most people. Perhaps it signifies lack of freedom.
For me, it's power. It forces me to focus on what I know is most important.
It's freedom for the mind.