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By Casey Grey
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I met a wonderful person a couple weeks ago. His name is Dr. Obom Bowen.
Like most entrepreneurs, it's tough to stay focused. I see opportunities all over the place. as I shared this in a conversation, Obom said that had the same issue in the past and that is why he had a pin made in the shape of glasses that he wears on his suits. He explained something very simple to me: "In order to get focused you need to have clarity and in order to have clarity you need to have a purpose." Purpose = Clarity = Focus It's a simple formula but not easy to implement. It takes determination and I've spent many hours meditating on this. One thing is for sure, I'm being pulled towards helping people. Specifically, men. Everything in my life has been setting me up for this moment in time and there's something exciting brewing... I got another nail in the tire of my truck. Not uncommon for a guy in construction. When something like this happens, it's easy to get frustrated. "Not again" is something that came to mind. "I'm already busy and now I have yet another thing I need to take care of..." I did what I usually do and gave Tom at call at Tom's Garage. As usual he told me swing by when I have a chance and he'll take care of it for me right away. That day, I headed on over after picking up my son from school. When I got there I turned the wheel to the right and backed the truck up slowly so Tom could scan the tire and see if there was anything obvious. In this case it was not an obvious nail. He said it may be easier if he just pops the tire off quickly. "Do you have the key for the locking nuts on your rims?" he asked. My answer was "I'm not sure." I never had to take the tires off since I bought the truck so I never actually looked for them. It turned out that I did not have the key. I called the dealership and they actually forgot to put them in the truck so they still had them. Luckily Tom was able to find the hole and fix the tire without taking it off but what I realized is that this happened FOR me. I have another friend who sells tires in Brockville which is just over an hour away from where we live. I had been talking to him about getting winter tires and I was going to head down there in the near future to have them installed. If this hole in my tire had not happened, I would not have known about the key for my locking nuts until I got all the way to Brockville. I would have wasted way more time than just having to fix a nail in the tire. This experience is summed up perfectly in the following quote that I read this morning: "The perfection of the Universal Flow I had been surrendering to had taken care of the problem before I even knew there was one." That's a quote is from The Surrender Experiment. I highly recommend getting this book or listening to the audio version. So the next time something "bad" happens to me, I know it's only going to be "good" in the end. Wait... What?
How can discipline be holding me back? Sometimes we talk about disciplining children. We think we're training them to obey certain rules through this act of punishment. We also discipline ourselves. We beat ourselves up for not going to the gym or not meeting a deadline or any other thing that we think we "should" have done. I've been able to write this blog everyday since I started because I am committed, not because I am worried about being disciplined. I have my reasons for doing it and I'm being pulled towards it. I'm connected to my source. If you're working with somebody else (like your child), help that person find their reasons and connect with their source. A tree cannot grow without being connected to its source, the earth. An iron won't work unless it's connected to its source, electricity. So why do we expect to grow or work properly if you're not connected to our source? I was just sitting in my usual chair where I do my reading and thinking every morning and I was in the process of listing things out that I could teach or help other people with.
I closed my eyes for a few seconds and when I opened them I had a new perspective on my surroundings. I had a sense of appreciation wash over me. An appreciation for myself. In looking around my home office, I noticed everything that was in my office and realized who I have become and who I am growing into. I really felt good and had a new found respect for myself. In my lap I had my notebook. On the table in front of me I have 6 books (all in the process of being read), my kindle (with more books in the process of being read), a couple audio CDs, a potential real estate investment opportunity and a smoke alarm (needs to be installed haha). On the floor I have binders and forms I received from the Private Investment Club over the weekend. On the cabinet to my left I have notes and pages of current projects we're working on for The Conscious Builder as well as potential projects I'm in the midst of negotiating and helping people with. To my right is the mantel with pictures of Sullivan, Natasha and I, pictures that were drawn by Sullivan and a couple thank you cards from people. On the chair to the right of that is my bag with more plans and notes for projects I'm working on or working towards. Straight ahead of me is my desk with more notes, papers, documents, business cards and other random things like a hot tub jet part, gift cards, window colour samples, an old harddrive (which I think is broken), a gripper, a screwdriver, golf balls and so forth. This is me. To the outsider it may seem like a mess. To me, it's organized chaos. I'm always moving forwards. I'm always growing. I'm always learning. I'm always meeting new people. And it never ends. Am I perfect? No. But I am committed to being better today than I was yesterday. I've been attending an event this weekend through the Private Investment Club. I've been lucky enough to learn from Sunil Tulsiani, Jack Canfield, Kevin Harrington and many others. Although I have heard a lot of the information before, repetition and surrounding myself with phenomenal people is always a great idea.
Yesterday I was reminded of the power of our subconscious mind and being conscious of what we feed it. "Describing the present is prescribing the future." That means if you say "I can't afford this" or "I can't do that" your subconscious mind will continue to create that reality. If you want something you need to act as if it has already happened. Your mind does not know the difference between reality and what's in your imagination. If you don't believe me, close your eyes and think of something that stresses you out and see what happens to your body. Now close your eyes and think of something that makes you happy and see what happens to your body. The mind can trick the body but the body never lies. Whatever you have been looking for, you already have it.
Either you have been looking in the wrong place or what you think it looks like is not actually what it looks like. When you hear the word "surrender", what comes to mind?
Weakness? Failure? Powerlessness? Soft? Submissive? If you think of this in the context of a physical battle, this may be true. But what about the internal battle that we're all having? Surrendering and accepting to "what is" instead of trying to control everything is actually the opposite of everything above. Surrendering is NOT a weakness. It is a courageous act. It takes strength and bravery to trust in the higher power and relinquish the control we think we have. I've been pondering a specific quote that I have heard many times before. "Life will give you what you settle for." The reason I have been pondering this quote is because I feel as though I have been going about it all wrong. Originally I was thinking I have to go out and make things happen. Don't let anything slow me down. Push forward and grind it out! But life is generous. It is always giving. It may not give in the way I was hoping for, though, which is what throws off that voice in my head. Settling is really just a point of view. I know things are happening FOR me. Does it mean that I don't ask for what I want or go after my dreams? Of course not! It means that I can't be married to HOW I'm going to get there or WHAT I'm suppose to do. If something is meant to be it will come to be with flow and ease. Through surrendering and accepting what is on front of me right now. What if we focused on receiving instead of getting?
Maybe we should be opening ourselves to all the world has to offer us instead of always chasing what we think the world owes us. The world is abundant. There is more than enough for everybody. Who am I?
Am I a carpenter? Am I a businessman? Am I a husband? Am I a father? Am I a brother? Am I a son? Am I a grandson? Am I a friend? Am I a leader? Am I a blogger? Am I a podcaster? Am I a human? Perhaps I am none of these things. We are so much more than the words we use to define ourselves. |
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