By Casey Grey
Did the dog bite Johnny or did Johnny bite the dog?
Did you drill the screw or screw the drill?
Are you a body with a spirit or a spirit with a body?
Same words in a different order gives you a different outcome.
Sometimes you don't need to change what you are doing. You just need to change the order in which you do it.
Do you think you're stupid or do you think you're a genius?
Do you think you're weak or do you think you're strong?
Do you think you're a terrible parent or do you think you're the greatest parent of all time?
Do you think you're a terrible spouse or do you think you're a terrific spouse.
Do you think you're sick or do you think you're healthy.
Do you think you're a follower or do you think you're a leader?
Do you think you're disconnected or do you think you're connected?
Do you think you're tired or do you think you're full of energy?
It's true, you are what you think...
But only if you believe it.
It’s important to understand.
Only when we understand a person are we truly able to serve them.
Only when we understand some “thing” are we truly able to use it to it’s fullest capability.
It you want to serve somebody, you need to understand them.
If you want to use some “thing” to its fullest capability, you need to understand it.
But in order to understand, you need to stop judging.
When you judge something or someone, you are no longer seeking to understand. Your mind will be seeking to prove it’s judgement.
That goes for understanding yourself as well. Stop judging yourself and start understanding yourself instead. Then you will create amazing change.
When I was a kid, my step dad ran his business from our home. I remember coming home from school and regularly having to sit patiently at his desk while he finished a phone call before I could ask him whatever I needed to ask him. It was likely 2 minutes but it seemed like an eternity at that age.
Now it feels as though days, weeks and months fly by. Knowing that reminds me to continue to exercise that skill I was learning as a kid.
Easier said than done (just like when I was a kid).
I want the nice house, fancy car and regular trips down south now. I want this blog and podcast to help millions of people today. I want The Conscious Builder Show to have millions of subscribers now. I want Younion to have thousands of members benefiting from all the amazing classes and programs now.
But we're not there yet.
And that's okay.
Everything is happening exactly as it's supposed to. The universe is working for me. The universe will give me what I'm ready for.
It's my job to make sure I'm prepared.
And so the journey (and my training) continues...
P.S. Last night we celebrated the journey so far with The Conscious Builder team. Here are some facts/stats from 2019 that I shared with the team to show we ARE making an impact:
Have you been holding onto something from the past?
Perhaps you have not forgiven an ex for hurting you. Or maybe you are still angry at a business partner who stole from you. Maybe you're involved in a ridiculous lawsuit right now or have been through one in the past. Did you get into an argument with a sibling or parent and now you never talk? Or maybe a best friend? Maybe it's a co-worker you are not getting along with.
I've been through all of the above and what I have learned is that there is no point in holding onto that pain. Whatever it is, it's taking up valuable space in your head and preventing you from living to the best of your ability.
Suzanne Somers said "Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself."
Maya Angelou said "It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody."
Lewis B. Smedes said "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you."
Mahatma Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
After cleaning my desk yesterday, I came across a check that was suppose to pay off a loan I had given somebody. The check had bounced because it came from a bank account that had been closed. Essentially I was tricked into lending this person $4,000 and then I never heard from him again.
I had been keeping this check on my desk because I wanted to make sure I got the money back. I was going to find him and make sure he paid me. What he did was illegal!
But when I came across this check again, I looked at the date for the first time in a long time. It was from 2012...
This had been taking up space in my head for 7 years!
I decided then and there that it was enough. Time to free up space in my head so that I can focus on people who deserve my headspace and things that will actually make me money.
Into the shredder than check went.
And now I'm free!!!
"If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign?"
I've been pondering this quote...
What if it's the wrong question?
What if we replaced the word 'empty' with 'organized' or 'clear'?
Personally I would much rather have an organized mind or a clear mind.
Although an empty mind may not be a bad thing either.
That would mean that there is room to fill it up with new empowering beliefs.
So I organized my desk this morning...
On January 8 of 2019 I committed to a Daily Blog and I kept that commitment. 365 days of a posting a blog every single day!
Not only have I kept it but I will continue to write every day. I will commit to another year and I suspect it will continue on after that.
But that’s not my commitment for 2020...
Today, January 8, 2020, I am committing to something new...
I’m committing to a daily podcast.
I will make sure that everyday you will hear my voice (if you choose to subscribe to Lean In with Casey Grey).
Just like when I committed to writing daily, I am doing this because I want to be better than I was yesterday (or in this case, last year). I want to become a better speaker and storyteller so that I can help people find that inspiration inside of them and release it!
I said it last year and I’ll say it again. New Year's Resolutions are useless unless you are committed.
What are you going to commit to today?
Where are you looking for inspiration?
Do you look for things to listen or watch like podcasts and documentaries?
Perhaps you escape to a cottage in the middle of nowhere?
Or maybe you find it at the gym or in the shower.
Inspiration is not something that is found on the outside. It's within us all.
Notice that all the things listed above are things that allow us to breathe and take time for ourselves.
It's amazing what will come when you take the time to just be and breathe.
Supply and demand is easily understood. If you want to increase the supply, you need to increase the demand. When the demand increases, the supply will naturally increase. It has to.
Why not apply this to our lives?
If you want to increase the supply of love, wealth, energy, health, vitality, enjoyment, fulfillment or anything else, you simply need to increase the demand.
Where you place that demand is of great importance though. You must demand it from the source.
That source is you.
You are the only source who can supply whatever it is you want more of. Take responsibility, raise your standards and go after your dreams.
(That's how I ended up with these two.)
When we see somebody who is really good at what they do, it's easy to think to ourselves that it would be nice to be that good.
What we see is only the highlights though.
We don't see the hours, days, months and years of work that went into that person becoming who they are. We don't see what they sacrificed and the level of commitment they had. We don't see the blood, sweat and tears shed throughout those years (or even in the present moment).
We only see the fraction of a percent of what they actually do.
Are some people naturally talented? Absolutely! But that does not mean they don't work their asses off to turn that good talent into great talent.
Is there something you really want? How badly do you want it? Are you willing to put in the work to make it happen? Are you committed? Are you determined to make it happen no matter what?
If you're not willing to put in the work, don't expect to be the greatest.