By Casey Grey
Yesterday was a "busy" day. I packed a lot into the 17.5 hours that I was awake.
I did my usual morning routine. I did all the financials for one of the businesses since our bookkeeper/admin is on vacation. I had an amazing partner meeting. Sullivan and I got our music lessons in. We also got a bike ride in, which we did to pick up ingredients for the brownies we had to make (which we made). I caught up on emails. I sent out follow up emails for our event this week. I probably did some other stuff I don't remember... I ended with a great call with my pod (mastermind group). Lastly I did my usual reading before bed.
Yes, it was a "busy" day. But I forgot one important thing...
Well I didn't forget her... I knew she had a big day so I was thinking about her. What I did not do is leave any time for her to share her day with me.
She's one of my rocks so I need to put her in the jar first (metaphorically speaking). I failed to do this.
The tricky part is I thrive on a schedule and checking things off the list. My wife on the other hand, like most women, is free flowing.
I say "tell me when you want to chat and I'll put it in my calendar" but that does not work for her. She wants to chat when she wants to chat. But when she wants to chat, if it's not planned, my mind is elsewhere and she knows this. I'm not present which only makes the situation worse.
As I shared with a friend yesterday, relationships are work. If fact, anything worth having requires work.
Strangely enough, these things cannot be worked on in the relationship. They are worked on for the relationship.
It's about working on yourself.
And a great relationship, above anything else, is worth working for. It has the ability to make everything else that's great in your life even better.