It's Not Fair

Something I'm sure I said many times when I was a child and something I hear from my son now.

As I write this from my Airbnb in St. Catherines, that same thought is going through my mind.

I'm here for a funeral but not for somebody who has lived a long life. At 39, my cousin, Karen, has moved on much too soon for friends and family. Being diagnosed with Lupus at the age of 18, she has not lived an easy life but was somehow one of the most positive people I have ever come across.

I am happy to say that I had a chance to see her only a few weeks ago. She was looking good. Her and her husband, Derek, were excited for the year ahead. They were planning renovations and trips. They were very positive about the upcoming months. Everything was looking bright.

It's not fair that this happened so unexpectedly. It's not "fair" that Karen was diagnosed with Lupus. It's not fair that my uncle and aunt have outlived their daughter. It's not fair that Derek has lost the love of his life. It's not fair...

But what is fair?

I watched well over 200 people walk through the visitation last night and understand that more than that came during the afternoon. This family has an abundance of family and friends. They are surrounded by love.

I don't know what is fair and what is not or who the judge is but I do know one thing... Karen did not care. Fair has nothing to do with it. She did the most with what she was given in life and this is very evident by seeing all the lives she has touched.

Karen, this world is a better place because of you. Your love of life will continue on. I am happy that you are no longer in pain and I know you will always be with us. Rest In Peace.

Love,
Casey

This picture is of all the cousins. I’m the little guy on the end and Karen is right in front of me.