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By Casey Grey
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Visualization is powerful. It can help you manifest things beyond your wildest dreams. But it needs to be done properly...
The trick with visualization is that you need to get beyond the HOW. If you want to manifest $1,000,000 or the person of your dreams, don't focus on how you're going to do it because you only know the "how" based on your current life experiences. Your mind limits you. Instead you need to visualize the WHAT. What do you want? What do you want to feel? Who do you want to help? Who do you have to become? Let the universe take care of the how. In reality you have no idea how you're going to achieve these things. That's why it's so hard to believe and that is why you need to trick your mind. If you focus on the how, you're going to slow yourself down because you'll be thinking of all these things you "can't" do or don't know how to do (or don't want to do).
I want to help 1,000,000 men become the heroes they are meant to be by the end of 2020. I have no idea how I'm going to do this but I'm putting it out there and I'm visualizing it. All I need to do is let the pieces fall into place and take action when I'm called upon. One of the actions I was pulled towards recently was to start Lean In with Casey Grey. So far so good! The latest thing I was pulled towards was to offer coaching to a select few. I have no idea where this is going to lead but it's out there and we'll see what happens. A mens group is also in the works and I had more things happen today that has pulled that forward. All I need to do is show up and act on my intuition. The universe works fast and I have every intention to go along for the ride. I met a wonderful person a couple weeks ago. His name is Dr. Obom Bowen.
Like most entrepreneurs, it's tough to stay focused. I see opportunities all over the place. as I shared this in a conversation, Obom said that had the same issue in the past and that is why he had a pin made in the shape of glasses that he wears on his suits. He explained something very simple to me: "In order to get focused you need to have clarity and in order to have clarity you need to have a purpose." Purpose = Clarity = Focus It's a simple formula but not easy to implement. It takes determination and I've spent many hours meditating on this. One thing is for sure, I'm being pulled towards helping people. Specifically, men. Everything in my life has been setting me up for this moment in time and there's something exciting brewing... When I work, I like to work fast. I like to get shit done. And if I make a mistake or do something that slows me down, I get frustrated.
Today was a good reminder to slow down and enjoy the process. It's never (and I really mean never) about the destination (or the final product). I spent the majority of today in the kitchen cooking and baking with Sullivan. We had the slow cooker going, the pressure cooking doing it's thing and delicious cookies in the oven. I even seasoned the cast iron pan! For the most part it was fun. But then I got to the baking part... Where I have less experience. The goal: to make vegan and gluten free gingerbread men. So I started searching through recipes and found one. So I thought... I started putting all the ingredients together and then realized the recipe was for soft gingerbread cookies... Not good for rolling out and cutting into christmas trees, stars and little men. My initial reaction was frustration as "that was a waste of time" was the first thought that came to mind. "Now I have to start over again!" I quickly snapped out of it, finished the recipe and got the cookies in the oven (which ended up being delicious by the way.) Back to google and the search for a recipe which included only incredients that we already had. Once I found the one, I started putting it together and things were going well. Sullivan and I got the dough looking good and we rolled it out. We started cutting the shapes transferring them to the baking sheet. Or at least I tried to transition them to the baking sheet... 2 out of the first 5 made it... My frustration started to come out again... "Daddy, don't get frustrated." Which only made me more frustrated. "Let me try. I'll be able to do it. I won't get frustrated and I don't like when you get frustrated." That last part is what changed my state. Here I am getting frustrated about breaking the leg off a silly gingerbread man and I'm missing the beautiful moment right in front of me. Before I know it, Sullivan will have no interest to be in the kitchen with me and I'm trying to rush through it. I'm just trying to check another thing off my list. Silly daddy... Slow down and enjoy the moment that's in front of you. It will be gone before you know it. P.S. Sullivan was able to do much better than me and we rocked those gingerbread men! Even mommy was quite impressed ;) I find it interesting what happens when people know it's your birthday. They treat you differently. They take better care of you. They smile more. They serve more. They are genuinely more interested. I'm guilty of doing the same thing when it's other people's birthdays.
What if when we interacted with people we treated them as if it was their birthday all the time? How would that change your relationships? I was just sitting in my usual chair where I do my reading and thinking every morning and I was in the process of listing things out that I could teach or help other people with.
I closed my eyes for a few seconds and when I opened them I had a new perspective on my surroundings. I had a sense of appreciation wash over me. An appreciation for myself. In looking around my home office, I noticed everything that was in my office and realized who I have become and who I am growing into. I really felt good and had a new found respect for myself. In my lap I had my notebook. On the table in front of me I have 6 books (all in the process of being read), my kindle (with more books in the process of being read), a couple audio CDs, a potential real estate investment opportunity and a smoke alarm (needs to be installed haha). On the floor I have binders and forms I received from the Private Investment Club over the weekend. On the cabinet to my left I have notes and pages of current projects we're working on for The Conscious Builder as well as potential projects I'm in the midst of negotiating and helping people with. To my right is the mantel with pictures of Sullivan, Natasha and I, pictures that were drawn by Sullivan and a couple thank you cards from people. On the chair to the right of that is my bag with more plans and notes for projects I'm working on or working towards. Straight ahead of me is my desk with more notes, papers, documents, business cards and other random things like a hot tub jet part, gift cards, window colour samples, an old harddrive (which I think is broken), a gripper, a screwdriver, golf balls and so forth. This is me. To the outsider it may seem like a mess. To me, it's organized chaos. I'm always moving forwards. I'm always growing. I'm always learning. I'm always meeting new people. And it never ends. Am I perfect? No. But I am committed to being better today than I was yesterday. What is one action you can take today that will have the most impact on your future?
Do that. Think long term. Last month at the M1 event in Montreal, I went with the intention to find clarity.
At the event, Segev, a fellow M1 member, ran some amazing exercises which I touched on in the podcast episode Finding Your Tribe with Rock Thomas. If you listened to the episode, I make reference to writing "clarity" on a piece of paper for one of the exercises that Segev ran. That piece of paper was later handed to my partner, Corin, and she gave me hers. What I forgot to come back to in that episode was what we did with those pieces of paper. At the time we received the papers, we were told not to open them and, instead, just put them in our pockets. Towards the very end of the day, Segev spoke up and informed us that the way we would find the thing we were looking for (the word we wrote on the piece of paper) would be through the word that was given to us by our partner. When I went back to my room, I opened up the piece of paper and on it was the word connection. That means I would find clarity through connection. Up until tonight, I thought I was going to find clarity through creating deeper connections with other people. Although I still think that is true, absolute clarity will come through connection with the higher powers. Interestingly enough, that epiphany came through connecting with my beautiful and all-knowing wife. Thank you, sweetie. I love to help people and I believe that most people are like this. When somebody asks me for help, I'm happy to do so because it feels good.
"Somebody needs me." What I have come to realize is that HOW I deliver that "help" is extremely important. If my son asks me to write something for him, is it more helpful to write it myself or show him how to write it? If my team is struggling, is it more helpful if I hop in and do the work or ask them questions to get them thinking differently so they can do it themselves? Is it better to let people make mistakes or protect them from the pain? Which one will help them learn faster? Think long term. Invest in the other person's success for the long run. The other night, Sullivan was excited to see his Nana. She was planning to come at the end of the following day.
While I was doing the usual bedtime routine with Sullivan, he said "Nana might be here when I wake up." I responded in the usual parent way and "corrected" his thinking by saying, "No buddy. She'll be here when you get home from school." He then quickly said, "Don't say that daddy! If you say that then it won't happen. She might be thinking it right now." Then it dawned on me... How often do I limit my son's beliefs like this? This is a simple and seemingly insignificant example but it's a habit I have. He was right. Nana may have been thinking to come early and surprise us. Who was I to tell him that she would not be coming? Just because I didn't believe it does not mean it was not going to happen. Nor does that give me the right to change his belief. I recently made a decision to remove somebody from my life and people who are closest to me have been celebrating the decision. They are basically saying "I told you so" without actually saying it.
What was it that they saw that I did not? If I'm honest with myself, I saw it as well. Unfortunately I let my head lead the way and tried to rationalize my decision. It's almost like I needed yet another example of how the gut is wiser than the brain. It's more connected to the energy around us than the brain will ever be. The brain is like the leader. It decides how to act, when to act and what to act on. Like any good leader though, it should get as much input as possible from the entire team before making any decisions. The gut and heart are important team members that should not be ignored. My brain did not lead this one well but now it's a stronger leader for learning yet another lesson. |
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