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By Casey Grey
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Why do we put so much time into worrying?
We worry about if we're working on the right thing today, who our children will grow up to become, if we made the right investments or if our spouse is happy. We worry about eating the right food and where the next client will come from or, if you are not an entrepreneur, whether or not we will have a job next week. We worry about if we said the right thing at the event yesterday or if we're going to say the right thing tomorrow. We worry about the clothes we wear, the weather and where we're going to be next year or in 10 years or in 25 years. I'm worrying about whether or not this is the right post to write today... What if instead of worrying we decided to trust. Replace the word "worry" with "trust" and watch the beauty of the universe unfold in front of you. Do everything in your power and trust that you are doing the best you can with what you know right now. Because you are. Trust that you are exactly where you are suppose to be, doing exactly what you are suppose to be doing, with the people you are suppose to be with. Trust that life is happening FOR you. I trust it's the right thing to do. "You can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you mind find, you get what you need." There is a lot of truth and depth to these lyrics.
By wanting something you are acting as if you don't have it so the universe will continue to give you more "wanting" as opposed to the actual thing you want. You need to act as if you already have it. I know... It's confusing... Let's put it this way... You get what you think about most. The issue is that most of us think we need something else as opposed to appreciating what we already have. Does that mean we should not have high aspirations? Absolutely not! That's one of the things that keeps me going. The key is to not be set on how you're going to get there or when it's going to happen. The universe works faster than we think if we allow it to. Let go of the control, put the intention out there and let the energy flow. If you are always thinking about the negative things that "could" happen, then you will get more negative things because that is where your energy is going. If you spend most of your time thinking about the great things that "will" happen, great things will happen because that is now the energy you are putting out there. To some extent this is training the mind to always look on the bright side. I know it's cheesy and may seem like BS but how has the alternative been working for you? I would much rather surround myself with positive people and positive thoughts. But don't be fooled... Positivity does not mean naive. Visualization is powerful. It can help you manifest things beyond your wildest dreams. But it needs to be done properly...
The trick with visualization is that you need to get beyond the HOW. If you want to manifest $1,000,000 or the person of your dreams, don't focus on how you're going to do it because you only know the "how" based on your current life experiences. Your mind limits you. Instead you need to visualize the WHAT. What do you want? What do you want to feel? Who do you want to help? Who do you have to become? Let the universe take care of the how. In reality you have no idea how you're going to achieve these things. That's why it's so hard to believe and that is why you need to trick your mind. If you focus on the how, you're going to slow yourself down because you'll be thinking of all these things you "can't" do or don't know how to do (or don't want to do).
I want to help 1,000,000 men become the heroes they are meant to be by the end of 2020. I have no idea how I'm going to do this but I'm putting it out there and I'm visualizing it. All I need to do is let the pieces fall into place and take action when I'm called upon. One of the actions I was pulled towards recently was to start Lean In with Casey Grey. So far so good! The latest thing I was pulled towards was to offer coaching to a select few. I have no idea where this is going to lead but it's out there and we'll see what happens. A mens group is also in the works and I had more things happen today that has pulled that forward. All I need to do is show up and act on my intuition. The universe works fast and I have every intention to go along for the ride. Wait... What?
How can discipline be holding me back? Sometimes we talk about disciplining children. We think we're training them to obey certain rules through this act of punishment. We also discipline ourselves. We beat ourselves up for not going to the gym or not meeting a deadline or any other thing that we think we "should" have done. I've been able to write this blog everyday since I started because I am committed, not because I am worried about being disciplined. I have my reasons for doing it and I'm being pulled towards it. I'm connected to my source. If you're working with somebody else (like your child), help that person find their reasons and connect with their source. A tree cannot grow without being connected to its source, the earth. An iron won't work unless it's connected to its source, electricity. So why do we expect to grow or work properly if you're not connected to our source? I was just sitting in my usual chair where I do my reading and thinking every morning and I was in the process of listing things out that I could teach or help other people with.
I closed my eyes for a few seconds and when I opened them I had a new perspective on my surroundings. I had a sense of appreciation wash over me. An appreciation for myself. In looking around my home office, I noticed everything that was in my office and realized who I have become and who I am growing into. I really felt good and had a new found respect for myself. In my lap I had my notebook. On the table in front of me I have 6 books (all in the process of being read), my kindle (with more books in the process of being read), a couple audio CDs, a potential real estate investment opportunity and a smoke alarm (needs to be installed haha). On the floor I have binders and forms I received from the Private Investment Club over the weekend. On the cabinet to my left I have notes and pages of current projects we're working on for The Conscious Builder as well as potential projects I'm in the midst of negotiating and helping people with. To my right is the mantel with pictures of Sullivan, Natasha and I, pictures that were drawn by Sullivan and a couple thank you cards from people. On the chair to the right of that is my bag with more plans and notes for projects I'm working on or working towards. Straight ahead of me is my desk with more notes, papers, documents, business cards and other random things like a hot tub jet part, gift cards, window colour samples, an old harddrive (which I think is broken), a gripper, a screwdriver, golf balls and so forth. This is me. To the outsider it may seem like a mess. To me, it's organized chaos. I'm always moving forwards. I'm always growing. I'm always learning. I'm always meeting new people. And it never ends. Am I perfect? No. But I am committed to being better today than I was yesterday. It's easy to go through life and get caught in the daily grind. In fact, there's a good chance you have a "good" life. Things are not "great" but they definitely could be worse.
Perhaps there is something eating at you but you don't know what it is. You ask yourself: "Why do I feel this way? I have a good life. There's a roof over my head and food on the table." There's a feeling in your gut that you can't shake. I just spent the weekend with amazing people who are out in the world having a huge impact on thousands of people. What I realized is that they all have a story. At some point in their lives, they were in the dumps. Life was shitty and wearing them down and eventually they said ENOUGH! The good life is the worst place to be in my opinion. You are too comfortable. Most big changes in people's lives come after such a painful experience that they have no choice but the change. But when you're in a good place, there's no reason to change. There's no reason to take a risk. But what about that feeling in your gut? It's telling you something. You are not happy with just being good. You are not fulfilled. You know there's something better. And all the people around you can tell it's eating at you. What if you don't take action on your dreams? What will your life be like? Will it be the same until you are on your deathbed? Is that what you want? Will you have regrets? What if you DO TAKE ACTION? How will your life improve? What kind of experiences will you provide for your friends and family? Where will you travel? Where will you live? Who will you help? What will you build? Most importantly, who will you become? And if it doesn't work out, then what? Will you try again? Will you be a better person than when you started the journey? Wouldn't you rather come to the end and say "I'm glad I did that!" instead of "I wish I did that..." Watching somebody you care about go through pain is not easy. Whether it's a team member, friend or family member, if you care about them, you likely want to help take the pain away.
But sometimes in order to change the pain is necessary. Pain is not a bad thing if it leads to better results. As a business owner, I see this often. Mistakes are made, clients get upset and then I get pulled in to help... And I usually help because not helping is painful for me. It's time to take my own advice on this one and realize that this pain is helping me. This time I'm not stepping in. I will support and encourage but I won't fix the mistake. Who am I?
Am I a carpenter? Am I a businessman? Am I a husband? Am I a father? Am I a brother? Am I a son? Am I a grandson? Am I a friend? Am I a leader? Am I a blogger? Am I a podcaster? Am I a human? Perhaps I am none of these things. We are so much more than the words we use to define ourselves. What is one action you can take today that will have the most impact on your future?
Do that. Think long term. Yesterday I walked through a property that I was interested in purchasing as an investment property.
As I walked through the property, I became less and less interested. The current owner had purchased it in May as a private sale, got rid of the "bad" tenants and had been working on renovating it. It's actually still in the process of being renovated and it's obvious that the homeowner is doing it himself and he has no construction experience. When I go through houses like this, I run. The craftsmanship was absolutely horrendous (and I'm being nice). What scares me the most about houses like this is what I can't see. If what I can see is that bad, imagine what is hidden in the walls... The world is full of Do-It-Yourselfers now (and not only in construction). I'm not against doing it yourself but just because you "can" do something does not mean you "should" do it. Doing it for yourself is one thing. Doing it for somebody else is another... Stick to what you are good at and hire experts for the rest. The results will be much better. |
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