It Just Makes Sense (Or Not)

Natasha and I are in the process of figuring out where we want to live and we have been for the last year. What do we want? Privacy? Space? Parking? Garage? Proximity to amenities? Number of bedrooms? Number of bathrooms? Storage? What's most important to us?

If it was only up to me, I could live in a garage with my van as long as I had a bathroom and somewhere to cook my food. That just makes sense in my mind. It would get us closer to our ultimate goals faster (financially speaking that is).

But that won't work for Natasha. It does not make sense to her. Which I completely understand. I know she would not be happy with those living situations so why would I put her through something like that unless I wanted to get a divorce? Which I do not.

This is where it gets tricky. We're all humans. We all have different wants. Our needs may be similar but how we meet those needs may be different.

I have come to learn that the masculine energy is willing to sacrifice whereas the feminine energy would prefer not to sacrifice. This is why I would be willing to sacrifice a nice home (or location, or space, etc...) now for a nicer home later whereas Natasha is less inclined to do so. I would do it because I would feel noble.

"I did it for the greater good. To give my family a better future."

But at what expense?

So how do we navigate this? Individually, as a couple and as a family?

I'm not sure I have the answer yet but I can tell you it's constant and consistent communication. It's both understanding ourselves and being able to express ourselves.  We need to be openminded and listen to what the other person needs (which is more important than the wants).

At the end of the day we are on the same team. We both want the best for each other and our families.