For The Ones You Love

Why do we say things that hurt people we love?

In fact, why do we say things that hurt people, period?

What is it that comes out of us when we get into an argument?

More importantly, what triggered that argument to begin with?

We've all been there (I was there last night). Somebody says or does something that "sets us off" or "pushes us over the edge". We then proceed to defend ourselves or attack the other person. Things start coming out of our mouths that have nothing to do with the original comment (or trigger).

The reason this happens varies but it always comes from the ego. It's the ego that needs to defend itself and the ego that needs to feel "right". It's the ego that needs to "win".

How many times have you "won" an argument and still felt like shit? Is that really a win?

If we come from our heart, we would never feel the need to win. We would never need to attack or defend.

As humans, we have to accept that this is going to happen. The ego is a part of us. It's part of the human experience.

However, I believe it's our job to figure out what our triggers are. Why do certain things trigger such a powerful emotional response? Our subconscious is telling us something and we need to figure out what it is.

If you won't do it for yourself, do it for the ones you love.