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By Casey Grey
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What is the most important thing you need to do today? Is it the most daunting task?
Start with that and the rest of your day will be a breeze! Being the owner of a business, I have noticed that people often tell me what they think I want to hear as opposed to what I need to hear. I sometimes don't know there's a problem until it's too late and then I'm brought in for damage control.
I'm fine with problems. Problems are inevitable. What I'm not fine with is when problems are brought to me without any effort put forward into solving them. Here's a simple tip on how to present a problem: "Hi Mr. Boss, here's the problem we have and here is what I propose we do. What do you think?" Heck, that's what I do with my clients! They are my boss. "Hello Mrs. Client. We have come across problem X but we have already implemented Y and we should be back on track by tomorrow." Nobody can get mad at somebody who has already solved a problem they did not know existed.
"This is a story about a tiger named Mohini that was in captivity in a zoo, who was rescued from an animal sanctuary. Mohini had been confined to a 10-by-10-foot cage with a concrete floor for 5 or 10 years. They finally released her into this big pasture: With excitement and anticipation, they released Mohini into her new and expensive environment, but it was too late. The tiger immediately sought refuge in a corner of the compound, where she lived for the remainder of her life. She paced and paced in that corner until an area 10-by-10 feet was worn bare of grass. . . . Perhaps the biggest tragedy in our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns."
From Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers by Timothy Ferriss This was exactly what I needed to read. I feel like I've been in a 10x10 cell for the last 10 years and I'm about to break out. I've been playing the same old patterns and I'm done! It's scary as shit though... What's out there? What's going to happen to me? Who am I going to meet? What new obstacles will I need to overcome? Who will I become? Only one way to find out... Every morning I sit in silence and meditate and every morning it's a different experience.
Every time I sit in on a group meditation at Younion, it's a different experience. When people find out that I meditate regularly, I often hear them say "I could not do that. I just can't turn my brain off." But that's not the point. When I sat in on Jasmine's sessions last night, she said something that describes this perfectly. "Asking the mind not to think is like asking the heart not to beat." You never want to stop anything from doing what it's supposed to do. The key is to figure out how to use it to its full potential. Come join us and unleash your full potential.
Imagine a world that worked for you.
Imagine a place where your wildest dreams came to reality. Imagine a universe that plotted to do good for you. You are in that place. You just have to work that imagination muscle. You get what you think about most. "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Being a parent is one of the most challenging and most rewarding things in life. As a parent, if you are conscious of your kids actions, you will realize that your kids simply mirror back their environments. If you are a big part of their environments (which I'm assuming you are) you will see that they have the same habits as you (good and bad).
Seeing how Christmas is less than 10 days away and the magic is in the air, I figured it was time for another post similar to How To Keep Your Wife Unhappy and How To Feel Terrible All The Time. Here's some tips on how to squash your kid's dreams:
Come to think about it... Are we doing these things to ourselves subconsciously? Today we helped Natasha's grandma move. Change is not easy for the average person. Change when you are 84 years old is a whole different level of change.
Change is inevitable though. At some point it has to happen. Your school is going to change. Your responsibilities will change. Your friends may change. Your hair is going to change colour. Your body is going to change. And the list goes on... Usually change comes at the most inconvenient time as well. But as Confucius said: "An inconvenience is an unrecognized opportunity." Get comfortable with change and seize the opportunities! When things are simple, the mind says "that can't be right." It has trouble trusting things that are simple. It wants an explanation.
A tree, for example, needs good soil, water and sun to grow. Simple on the surface but complex when you dig into how it does this. Do I need to know the complex workings of a tree to understand and trust the process? No, but the mind wants it. When I think of my life, simplicity comes from my intuition. Deep down I always know what I need to do and what is right for me in that moment. But then my mind gets in the way and tries to rationalize everything and turns it into a complex mess that takes me off track. My heart and gut have never steered me in the wrong direction. My mind on the other hand... Well... Let's say I'm still working on fixing those complex workings. Where are you adding complexity to your life that, if you listened to your soul, would be simple? We all have a vision for our lives. There are things we want to buy, places we want to visit, relationships we want to create, experiences we want to have and a person we want to become.
But most of us keep this vision bottled up. We keep it to ourselves because we think people will think it's dumb and impossible to achieve or, even worse, we think it's dumb and impossible. But look around. People all around us are making their dreams happen. There are amazing people doing phenomenal things from all walks of life. So it's definitely possible... Below is my vision for my life. I'm putting it out there. I'm surrendering to the universe and will act on what the universe puts in front of me to make this happen. I will no longer slow it down.
This WILL happen. Do I know how or when? No. But it does not matter. It's already in the works. The universe is lining everything up perfectly and all I need to do is say YES! What's your vision? When are you going to be courageous enough to share it? The universe is waiting for you. I had a great call with two amazing men yesterday, Ken Eslick Jr. and Alan Murray. These two guys are out to serve! They always deliver on what they say and are happy to support in any way they can.
The conversation yesterday went to relationships. We all shared experiences and wisdom as to what we've learned and what we continue to learn within our relationships with our wives. One of the reasons this was such a powerful conversation was because not only have we all been with our women for an extended period of time but we also work with them. Having a relationship is easy but having a GREAT relationship takes a lot of work. Throwing business into the mix only adds complexity. I shared some stuff that has been working for myself such as understanding the importance that hormones play in a relationship. Understanding what produces testosterone and what produces estrogen has really helped me. This is something I learned from Beyond Mars and Venus. Men need 10 times more testosterone than women and women need 10 times more estrogen than men. As an example, listening produces testosterone and talking produces estrogen (God knew what he was doing when he created us). Other testosterone building activities are driving, making money, sports and solving problems. Does that sound like a man to you? Alan shared a rule that has worked really well for him and his wife. No business talk after 8:00pm. Simple yet powerful for couples who work together. It's easy to talk about work and all the things you "have" to do tomorrow or things that came up during the day. But when do you check in with each other? Men, when do you ask your wives questions and just listen to what she needs to say? (Without trying to fix anything I should add...) Ken had something great that has stuck with him over the years:
This can be a vicious cycle. If a woman feels unsafe, unheard or unseed, there's a good chance they will be critical, controlling and/or closed towards their man. And if a man feels like their woman is being critical, controlling or closed off to him, he will likely not see her, hear her or make her feel very safe. The things above are simple but they're not easy. Great relationships require more work on ourselves than anything else. Yes, they can be painful but they can also be the greatest joy in the world. What's the point of doing anything if you can't share it with somebody? (And I could not imagine sharing my life with anybody other than Natasha Grey.) Thank you, Ken and Alan, for your wisdom. It's already being put into practice! |
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