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By Casey Grey
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Wait... What?
How can discipline be holding me back? Sometimes we talk about disciplining children. We think we're training them to obey certain rules through this act of punishment. We also discipline ourselves. We beat ourselves up for not going to the gym or not meeting a deadline or any other thing that we think we "should" have done. I've been able to write this blog everyday since I started because I am committed, not because I am worried about being disciplined. I have my reasons for doing it and I'm being pulled towards it. I'm connected to my source. If you're working with somebody else (like your child), help that person find their reasons and connect with their source. A tree cannot grow without being connected to its source, the earth. An iron won't work unless it's connected to its source, electricity. So why do we expect to grow or work properly if you're not connected to our source? I was just sitting in my usual chair where I do my reading and thinking every morning and I was in the process of listing things out that I could teach or help other people with.
I closed my eyes for a few seconds and when I opened them I had a new perspective on my surroundings. I had a sense of appreciation wash over me. An appreciation for myself. In looking around my home office, I noticed everything that was in my office and realized who I have become and who I am growing into. I really felt good and had a new found respect for myself. In my lap I had my notebook. On the table in front of me I have 6 books (all in the process of being read), my kindle (with more books in the process of being read), a couple audio CDs, a potential real estate investment opportunity and a smoke alarm (needs to be installed haha). On the floor I have binders and forms I received from the Private Investment Club over the weekend. On the cabinet to my left I have notes and pages of current projects we're working on for The Conscious Builder as well as potential projects I'm in the midst of negotiating and helping people with. To my right is the mantel with pictures of Sullivan, Natasha and I, pictures that were drawn by Sullivan and a couple thank you cards from people. On the chair to the right of that is my bag with more plans and notes for projects I'm working on or working towards. Straight ahead of me is my desk with more notes, papers, documents, business cards and other random things like a hot tub jet part, gift cards, window colour samples, an old harddrive (which I think is broken), a gripper, a screwdriver, golf balls and so forth. This is me. To the outsider it may seem like a mess. To me, it's organized chaos. I'm always moving forwards. I'm always growing. I'm always learning. I'm always meeting new people. And it never ends. Am I perfect? No. But I am committed to being better today than I was yesterday. It's easy to go through life and get caught in the daily grind. In fact, there's a good chance you have a "good" life. Things are not "great" but they definitely could be worse.
Perhaps there is something eating at you but you don't know what it is. You ask yourself: "Why do I feel this way? I have a good life. There's a roof over my head and food on the table." There's a feeling in your gut that you can't shake. I just spent the weekend with amazing people who are out in the world having a huge impact on thousands of people. What I realized is that they all have a story. At some point in their lives, they were in the dumps. Life was shitty and wearing them down and eventually they said ENOUGH! The good life is the worst place to be in my opinion. You are too comfortable. Most big changes in people's lives come after such a painful experience that they have no choice but the change. But when you're in a good place, there's no reason to change. There's no reason to take a risk. But what about that feeling in your gut? It's telling you something. You are not happy with just being good. You are not fulfilled. You know there's something better. And all the people around you can tell it's eating at you. What if you don't take action on your dreams? What will your life be like? Will it be the same until you are on your deathbed? Is that what you want? Will you have regrets? What if you DO TAKE ACTION? How will your life improve? What kind of experiences will you provide for your friends and family? Where will you travel? Where will you live? Who will you help? What will you build? Most importantly, who will you become? And if it doesn't work out, then what? Will you try again? Will you be a better person than when you started the journey? Wouldn't you rather come to the end and say "I'm glad I did that!" instead of "I wish I did that..." I've been attending an event this weekend through the Private Investment Club. I've been lucky enough to learn from Sunil Tulsiani, Jack Canfield, Kevin Harrington and many others. Although I have heard a lot of the information before, repetition and surrounding myself with phenomenal people is always a great idea.
Yesterday I was reminded of the power of our subconscious mind and being conscious of what we feed it. "Describing the present is prescribing the future." That means if you say "I can't afford this" or "I can't do that" your subconscious mind will continue to create that reality. If you want something you need to act as if it has already happened. Your mind does not know the difference between reality and what's in your imagination. If you don't believe me, close your eyes and think of something that stresses you out and see what happens to your body. Now close your eyes and think of something that makes you happy and see what happens to your body. The mind can trick the body but the body never lies. Watching somebody you care about go through pain is not easy. Whether it's a team member, friend or family member, if you care about them, you likely want to help take the pain away.
But sometimes in order to change the pain is necessary. Pain is not a bad thing if it leads to better results. As a business owner, I see this often. Mistakes are made, clients get upset and then I get pulled in to help... And I usually help because not helping is painful for me. It's time to take my own advice on this one and realize that this pain is helping me. This time I'm not stepping in. I will support and encourage but I won't fix the mistake. Whatever you have been looking for, you already have it.
Either you have been looking in the wrong place or what you think it looks like is not actually what it looks like. When you hear the word "surrender", what comes to mind?
Weakness? Failure? Powerlessness? Soft? Submissive? If you think of this in the context of a physical battle, this may be true. But what about the internal battle that we're all having? Surrendering and accepting to "what is" instead of trying to control everything is actually the opposite of everything above. Surrendering is NOT a weakness. It is a courageous act. It takes strength and bravery to trust in the higher power and relinquish the control we think we have. I've been pondering a specific quote that I have heard many times before. "Life will give you what you settle for." The reason I have been pondering this quote is because I feel as though I have been going about it all wrong. Originally I was thinking I have to go out and make things happen. Don't let anything slow me down. Push forward and grind it out! But life is generous. It is always giving. It may not give in the way I was hoping for, though, which is what throws off that voice in my head. Settling is really just a point of view. I know things are happening FOR me. Does it mean that I don't ask for what I want or go after my dreams? Of course not! It means that I can't be married to HOW I'm going to get there or WHAT I'm suppose to do. If something is meant to be it will come to be with flow and ease. Through surrendering and accepting what is on front of me right now. I have a habit of biting off more than I can chew...
I push myself beyond my perceived limits and by doing so I learn new things everyday. It's not easy but I always grow. I always accomplish more than what I could have done if I only accepted what I knew I could handle. Even though I may bite off more that I chew, I always chew it. What if we focused on receiving instead of getting?
Maybe we should be opening ourselves to all the world has to offer us instead of always chasing what we think the world owes us. The world is abundant. There is more than enough for everybody. |
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